9 things you should never apologize for

by Israel Boafo Bansah

9 things you should never apologize for

As human beings, we find ourselves often apologizing for everything and feeling guilty for disappointing our families, friends and loved ones even though we are very happy with our decisions. Apologizing for something you’re not sorry for only brings us down, but when we stand up for what we believe in, it empowers us and reaffirms our values.
Take note that it’s not everyone who is going to agree with the decisions you’ve taken. Mostly not because they are bad but because of their own selfish interest as human beings always want the best just for themselves. It’s not your job to make them feel better about your decision by apologizing for it even though you have no regret for it; it’s your job to make sure you’re happy with yourself.
 
1.  Leaving Someone When It’s For Your Own Good
Have you ever left a bad friend or an abusive relationship? The person you left in most cases might criticize you and making you feel like you have committed the worst crime ever, or your family and friends might say you were unwise and shouldn’t have left and you are all devastated, saying sorry won’t be the solution. If you know that it’s for you own good then there’s no reason to be sorry and never apologize for it.
 
2.  Never Apologize For Getting Something Off Your Chest
We tend to carry thoughts around with us when we don’t want to hurt people’s feelings or start drama. Sometimes, however, certain things really need to be said, especially when the weight of hanging onto them is only stressing you to the max.
Say what you need to say, but never apologize for being honest and open to a healthy conversation.
3. Never Apologize For Being Sick
Whatever the kind of infection you are suffering from, be it fluid, malaria, common cold or just feeling depressed, you should never apologize for it. It’s not something you can control. You may not like the cards fate dealt you, but that doesn’t mean you have anything to apologize for. Always do whatever it takes for you to get better but when you meet someone who feels you shouldn’t be sick and wanted you to apologize for what is no fault of yours, just get away from such a person and never feel sorry for taking that step.
4. Never Apologize For Not Knowing The Answer
No human being is perfect and knows the answer to every question put to him/her. Admitting that you don’t know the answer to something is not belittling but rather empowering. It shows that you’re bold and willing to learn, you are open-minded, and are humble. Why apologize for that? No! Only bold and brave people admit their mistakes and learn from them. Remember he who doesn’t know and knows that he doesn’t know is a wise man.
5. Never Apologize for Being Successful

It’s a sad truth that people can make us feel so bad about our successes no matter how big or small. You might hear remarks like, “You could have done better,” even from the people closest to you.
Here’s the truth: a success is a success no matter how small, whether it’s hitting your goal weight or graduating from a university of even landing that dream job. Let these successes propel you to do more, and never for once feel sorry or apologize for them because someone says it’s not success enough. There’s no reason to apologize for being successful.
6. Never Apologize For Your Grades
We all have our capabilities and where we feel more comfortable. Never feel sorry for doing so well in a particular course and your friends not passing it. You worked so hard for it and probably that’s where your strengths lie. Feel proud about it. And you must never feel so bad for getting those low grades you work so hard but never seems to pass. You may probably not gifted in that area and may be the best when given another field. Never apologize for your grades no matter how good or bad they are.
7. Never Apologize For Asking For Help

For some reason, we tend to think that asking for help is a sign of weakness. It isn’t my dear. In fact, it’s the exact opposite. It shows that you’re honestly willing to learn and to make a change.
Whether you’re looking for a friend to help you understand your assignment or you’re asking a roommate for a little help, you should feel good about taking this step since it can build you into a better person. Asking for help shows that you admit you don’t have it all and people around you can be better equip and you want to learn from them.
8. Never Apologize For Needing Some Time Alone
We all need some alone time. Unfortunately, most of us don’t get that alone time between demanding lecturers, irritating friends and probably grating lovers. When you need to spend some time alone without any disturbance to reflect upon your own life, feel free to take it. If you need to take just 30 minutes for a bubble bath or even a week-long retreat, don’t let yourself feel guilty or apologize for it. Not only do you deserve it, but you need alone time every now and then to sort through your thoughts and to reduce stress.
9. Never Apologize For Any You Give Your All To. Even If It Didn’t Work Out

If you’re passionate about anything, then you’ve likely put your all into something, whether it was a relationship or a career choice.
Unfortunately, giving it all you’ve got doesn’t guarantee it will turn out the way you planned. Your career may come to an early halt, or your relationship my not work out after investing a lot of time and resource into it. As long as you did what you could to make it work, you shouldn’t apologize for taking that path.
Tell us in the comment section what else you think we must never apologize for.

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